And another. This is the same bird a month later.

Somebody already beat me to gosling, but have another

People aren’t always honest on dating sites. Something they’re particularly likely to be dishonest about is what kind of relationship they’re looking for. Women will sometimes say they’re looking for a long-term relationship even if they might be open to something else because saying they’re open to casual sex is “slutty”. Men will often say they’re looking for a long-term relationship even though they’re not because women won’t meet them if they don’t say that because it’s “slutty”.

That may be what you encountered: a man trying to see if you really meant what your profile said, or it might be a man trying to deceive you to get casual sex when that’s not what you’re looking for. Either way, a follow-up will not lead to the long-term relationship you’re seeking.

Edit: I also wouldn’t characterize his behavior as “ghosting”. Ghosting is cutting off communication without explanation. He gave you an explanation.

You can absolutely scrape the seasoning off a cast iron pan through aggressive use of metal utensils, but you can also re-season it by applying a little cooking oil and getting it hot for an hour or so.