Worst would’ve been having a kid at 21, second worse was. It grasping how predatory credit cards can be. Survived the first but the 2nd one hurt the longest, now I treat credit cards like poison, I try to avoid carrying a balance at all costs and expend any extra funds to eliminate any balances before I look at other possible uses of that cash.
My dad was a rush limbaugh guy in the 90’s then moved to info wars, my mother who he married when she was 16 dotes on him due to his history of being abused as a child, so my dad never grew up, never learned any hard lessons, and she never made anything of herself but to be his voice box when I refused to debate him on politics.
My mom then only called to relay her struggles, or to nudge me on politics, I would call her on holidays and gift them lavishly with my nice IT job, especially after my dad was forced into retirement during Covid.
Anytime I mentioned a challenge in my life they would turn it around and tell me how they had it worse, when I told them good news, it barely registered.
The last straw was when she called me just before the last presidential election to strongarm me into voting for Trump. She crossed a line and I hung up. Haven’t talked since, and finally have peace in my life, well some peace anyway.
Hey all, I’ve been slowly building services on my server over many many years, starting with running a minecraft ftb server, to where I am now, which is 1 primary system(providing the network filesystem) and 2 auxiliary minipc systems my brother in law recently donated. I moved from Docker to Docker Swarm after getting those MiniPC’s and enjoying the added compute. Currently my swarm is running:
As I go about my day I’m always looking for new and interesting containers to run, and then scrutinizing if they fill a need, replace an existing service with a better version of the same service, or if it’s better off not implementing, then I pull them down. this has been a great experience in devops learning and the longer I work on the server the more best practices I put in place and the more I understand why corporate clouds have some of the practices they have. I look forward to poking around in this community looking to help and to find new containers to accrete into my platform.
I feel like my kids having it diagnosed helped me a bit but it started with getting a therapist and talking about my life experiences. I expected to have to take a test but they just put me on the meds pretty quickly. My 3rd grade teacher suspected me but my parents never acted. I guess I am a clear case so testing wasn’t involved in my diagnosis